Sexcapades: The Bedroom Coloniser

Trigger warning: racism  

I met this guy who was a friend of a friend and we hit it off really well.  

The first red flag to how my night was going to go, was that he requested to "go upstairs and watch some YouTube". I assumed this was an innuendo to go have some fun. But when we got upstairs, he asked to watch blacksmith videos. I agreed but was a little uncomfortable as he tried to mansplain blacksmiths to me.  

I thought the worst was over until he asked me what my ethnic background was. I am very clearly half Chinese, but I like people to guess. So, I asked him to. He then went on to explain how I couldn't be Chinese because they were full of colonists. I told him I was in fact Chinese. He then proceeds to look me dead in the eyes and whisper "I want to fucking colonise you".  

I was so confused and asked him "huh?". He repeated the sentence and went on to say I was "really fucking yellow". This guy was a 6ft 3 white man.  

I was so taken aback that all I could do was awkwardly laugh. This man then had the audacity to ask me out for coffee. I was so scared that I accepted the invitation and then excused myself to the toilet.  

I informed my flatmates what happened, and they chased him out of the house. I had to move my whole bedroom around because every time I lay down, I could hear him whispering "I'm going to colonise you".  

So even if you met someone and think they’re great, they might turn out to think racism is a bedroom role-play.