Ramming w/ Fergus: Call me a Sl*t

Q. Hi Fergie, is it wrong to want my boyfriend to call me a degrading name? I love him and he loves me, but sometimes I want to be railed and called a slut. 

A. I have a confession to make. While many would see me as always dominant in the bedroom, sometimes I love to be submissive.  

Don’t get me wrong, I can definitely switch. But sometimes the dirty whore inside me just wants to be acknowledged.  

Personally, for me as an alpha ram of high status, sex is the place where I can let go and lose control. It's not often that I feel degraded in everyday life. I’m constantly showered with compliments and praise for my good looks and smarts. So, I love the change of pace being degraded provides when a sexual partner calls me Fergus the filthy jizz machine. 

There is nothing wrong with wanting your boyfriend to call you degrading names. But just make sure you set boundaries and be safe. The degrading kink works best when you have an understanding that you actually do like and respect each other.  

For example, one time this girl made me cum after calling me a grizzly gumboot-licker. But then afterwards she rubbed my back, called me pretty, and spoon-fed me icecream.  

It’s all about balance, really.